Stop using your to-do list as a self-condemning document.
It isn’t sacred. Add items you did to your to-do list. Your original plans were fallible.
You accomplished some things that weren’t originally on the list. Live with that.
Perhaps you are more productive than you think. Stop beating yourself up.
End of day: What did I accomplish by God’s grace?
Be gracious to yourself. Why? Because God is gracious toward you.
Are you abdicating basic responsibilities? Maybe. If so, repent. Get angry, and channel that anger toward action, not self-condemnation. But be slow to judge yourself and others.
Start the day with God’s grace – it is empowering. Then work with all the power that God is mightily and graciously working within you. Then end the day by resting in his grace.
“Believers are accepted through Christ, and thus their good works are also accepted in him. This acceptance does not mean our good works are completely blameless and irreproachable in God’s sight. Instead, God views them in his Son, and so he is pleased to accept and reward that which is sincere, even though it is accompanied by many weaknesses and imperfections. (Ephesians 1:6; 1 Peter 2:5; Matthew 25:21, 23; Hebrews 6:10)” (https://founders.org/library/1689-confession/chapter-16-good-works/)
This only applies to Christians – those who are completely and permanently forgiven in Christ. If you are not forgiven, then you are in rebellion. In this case you have far worse things to worry about than your to-do list failures or misplaced shame. And no to-do list success can fix that.
But for those in Christ:
“Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand.” (Romans 5:1-2)
“There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (Romans 8:1)