This is Compassionate Calvinism

Every man has built for himself a house of mind, and holds dear the belongings which he possesses within. The foundation beneath his house—where his beloved affections, worship, treasures of joy, and sources of value and acceptance are—sustains all that which he loves in the framework of his thinking. The house is built in glory to his master, either Satan, or the God of Jacob.

To the glory of God, Christians characteristically live and think. For some, this means enjoying meat. For others, abstaining. For some, this means drinking wine in thanksgiving for God’s blessings. For others, abstaining. For some, this means exercising compassion on the poor by means of supporting socialism. For others, capitalism.

And for some this means assuming free-will to make sense of human decisioning and responsibility and non-coercion. This attempt at coherence, to the glory of God. For others, the working of God in a person to will and to act according to His purpose. This, to the glory of God.

Indeed, to question God’s sovereignty over our wills is rebellion. Indeed, to stubbornly refuse to believe God’s word when He so explicitly describes His determining, defining, irresistible will is downright sin. But who I am to devastate another’s foundation so harshly, so as to destroy his house violently? Are not the treasures within his house the same treasures I cherish? Are we not members of one another?

“Who are you to judge someone else’s servant? To his own master he stands or falls. And he will stand, for the Lord is able to make him stand.” –Romans 14:4

“Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ…” –Ephesians 4:15

Eugune Peterson says it better than I can in his interpretative paraphrase:

“Welcome with open arms fellow believers who don’t see things the way you do. And don’t jump all over them every time they do or say something you don’t agree with—even when it seems that they are strong on opinions but weak in the faith department. Remember, they have their own history to deal with. Treat them gently. For instance, a person who has been around for a while might well be convinced that he can eat anything on the table, while another, with a different background, might assume all Christians should be vegetarians and eat accordingly. But since both are guests at Christ’s table, wouldn’t it be terribly rude if they fell to criticizing what the other ate or didn’t eat? God, after all, invited them both to the table. Do you have any business crossing people off the guest list or interfering with God’s welcome? If there are corrections to be made or manners to be learned, God can handle that without your help.” –Romans 14:1-4, The Message

This is compassionate Calvinism: to get a handle on the core values of Christ, the God-man. To zero-in on the crux of what it means to be godly: worshipping God and loving your neighbor. To subordinate all theology to the aim of love which issues from a pure heart and a good conscience and a sincere faith.

This is compassionate Calvinism: not to obliterate a man’s house of mind and leave it unsupported, but rather to gently, gradually, lovingly supply a better foundation. One conversation at a time. This new foundation is to be Biblical, solid, God-honoring, and man-humbling. It is to inspire acts of unseen love and obedience and prayer, all to the glory of God.

“For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit, because anyone who serves Christ in this way is pleasing to God and approved by men.” –Romans 14:17-18

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